There are three things that can make babies naughty:
1. the development of motor ability. With the rapid development of their physique, their physical performance grows up gradually, and they are eager to expand their individual activity space, so they constantly try to do new things themselves. At this moment, most moms might stop and restrict this kind of behaviors of babies, stirring their dissatisfactory emotions which result in them running counter to what moms have required, that is, to be disobedient.
His insubordination is just caused by such a way. He just would like to exercise his body, touch this and that hither and thither. Only through such attempts of exercise could he get his subjective experience to develop his sport ability and to improve his cognitive levels. Therefore the foremost “intractableness” was created, he just wants to have an exercise, wants to touch everywhere. Only through such exercise trial, can he gains the emotional experience, develops the athlete ability and improve the level of knowledge.
2.The necessary road of the psychological development of infants: After two years old, the baby’s self-awareness begin to develop; the autonomy and enthusiam have be improved; in addtion that he begins to realize the strengh of “I”. Therefore he wants to participate in everything, but this behavior is always conflicted with your regulations. If you impose your will to him, he will resist, and produce a sense of frustration. As time goes on, he becomes more and more “naughty”.
He just would like to do things according to his own will and wants to try things in the world around him to find his own abilities. But the mother may not understand and support him, and racks her mind to stop such “damaging behaviors” and give penalties to his “insubordination”. Such a way will not only stimulate more of his subordinate behaviors but also lead to bad relationship between the mother and the baby.
3. You can not meet the curiosity of the baby: the baby has a strong curiosity and wants to touch everything. If you do not understand the curious explorating mood and think that the baby is mischievous and naughty to stop him and even blame and beat him, it is easy to lead to the dissatisfaction of the baby, his disobedience is produing in this way.
Babies is naughty, then what should you do? Their “disobedience” in babyhood is essentially different from that in childhood. You cannot just stop him. Instead, you should treat your growing baby with scientific and efficient methods. He is naughty, what should you do?
(1) show your understanding and respect: it is the first step of your baby to build his self-awareness and self-respect at the beginning of his insubordinate behaviors. He just likes to gain his own development space and wants to be equal with you in status. You should not interfere easily to his actions. When the baby stars to want something, just meet some of his reasonable needs. When he needs help, just give him instructions. Therefore, it will make your baby think that you are respecting to him. And he will feel good and sense of achievement since their self-esteem has been maintained.
(2). Transfer his attention timely: when he is interested in a certain thing, he wants it sparing no efforts and may raise some irrational demands. At this time, you cannot just stop him rudely, but put up advice that is more interesting to transfer his attention and take him to another place that he cannot see the target object timely. For example, when the baby wants to throw off the crystal ball on the desk, you can give him a ball and take him into antother room and play it with him.
(3) Satisfy your baby’s curiosity and reasonable requests: leave enough exploring space for your baby on the basis to have him shifted from the dangerous items. The simplest way to get your baby away from the dangerous items is to replace them with something else. At the same time, you should set certain rules for him and restrain his exploring behavior.
You should forwardly provide some interesting toys and items to attract the attention of the baby and make him concentrate his attention to his exploring activity which can meet his needs. Try to offer him more structural toys. Guide him to innovate ways of playing an old toy, or to regard a waste as a toy. For example, knead a piece of an out-dated newspaper and kick it like a football, which can not only satisfy his curiosity, but also his wish to do things with his own hands. He must be rather happy. When the baby puts some rational requirements, especially when he meets something which he can sor
ts out, such as dressing by himself, washing face and so on, please just let him do that. This will make him have a sense of achievements and joy and also avoid his “disobedient”.
(4) Communicate with the baby in the right words: The way you use to communicate with the baby directly affect the behavior of the baby. I advise that you had better use the positive words. For example, instead of saying “do not crumb the flowers”, you should say “The flower is so tender, your hands may harm her”. Do not use the word “no”, because the word “no” will lead to his curiosity and intensify his desire that he wants to try. Use the words that the baby is able to understand. For example, he saw in a supermarket an exactly similar toy car with his own at home and clung to take it as his in wish of bring it home. If you in this situation said to him: “Baby, the car misses his mom. He wants to go home and see his mom when you do not play with him. I promise you, when we arrive at home, he will return home, too.” Communicating with babies in this way, he would not cling there and give it up.
